What Therapy Is Really Like (And What Often Stops People Starting)

For many people, therapy feels like something they should do one day, …. but not quite yet. There’s often a mix of curiosity, uncertainty and fear. If you’ve ever wondered what therapy is really like, you’re not alone.

What therapy is really like

Therapy isn’t about being analysed, fixed or told what to do. It’s a space where you can speak openly, at your own pace, about whatever feels important to you. Some sessions are emotional, others are practical, and some are quieter; all of that is normal.

You don’t need to know what to say or have a clear goal before you start. Many people begin therapy feeling confused, stuck or exhausted, often after living with anxiety, trauma or emotional overwhelm for a long time. In therapy, we work together to make sense of what’s going on for you, gently and respectfully. Therapy is a relationship first and foremost built on trust, safety and being heard.

Common myths that stop people starting

One of the biggest blocks is the belief that your problems “aren’t bad enough”. Many people worry they’re taking up space that someone else needs more. The truth is, therapy isn’t reserved for crisis moments. You don’t need to be at breaking point to ask for support.

Others worry they’ll be judged, pushed to talk about things they’re not ready for, or expected to change too quickly. A trauma-informed approach means you are always in control. Nothing is forced, and your boundaries matter.

There’s also the fear of opening old wounds. While therapy can involve difficult feelings, it’s not about reliving pain without support. It’s about understanding your experiences in a way that feels safer and more manageable.

If you’re feeling unsure

Feeling hesitant doesn’t mean therapy isn’t right for you. It often means you care deeply about protecting yourself. That makes sense. Starting therapy is a brave step, even if it doesn’t feel like it.

If you’ve been quietly thinking about therapy for a while, that might be worth listening to.

If you’re considering therapy and want a safe place to start, you can contact me for more information.